Today I come to you with PURPOSE—CRYING OUT FROM MY VALLEY WITH ENCOURAGING WORDS: “YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH YOUR VALLEY SEASON!
Sadly, over the last three months, we’ve lost three loved ones in our family (my brother-in-law Leon in September, my sister Brenda in October and my eldest son Gary in November). My God!! There are days when just the thought of it is unbearable. Our lives have been forever changed.
And so here we are in the 2017 Christmas Season. A holy season when we celebrate the birth of our Savior Jesus Christ. In addition, like so many other families, it is also a time to come together and fellowship. MY TRUTH: When you’ve had such a blow to your family unit, you try your best to resist the idea of just wanting to pull the covers over your head and not come out.
I’ve come today, not to focus on my trials per se, but to encourage and let others know who are or have experienced such painful losses that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. And so, during my journey to healing, I’ll be sharing with you how God is helping me through this most difficult time. Notice that I said, God IS helping me. Please understand that this is a process and it will take time to heal. James W. Moore, author of When Grief Breaks Your Heart writes,
“Grief is a journey that takes time. As we move through the valley, God anoints us in His own time and in His own special way, with the balm of healing.”
I’d also like to add that we must remind ourselves that we can’t do it on your own. Allow your family and friends to be there for you—it is the love and support of your “village” that will bring you comfort as well. With that said, let me take this moment to thank each of you (you know who you are LOL) that continues to support the Davis/Glenn/Griffith families. We love you to life.
Most important, remember that God is the God of all comfort and He knows exactly how you are feeling right at this very moment. The Word of God says, “He is the God of all comfort—He comforts us in all our troubles…” Then the Word shares that He comforts us so that we can comfort those in any trouble (affliction/trials) with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ (II Corinthians 1:3-5) NIV. With that said, as you walk with me through this season, as we take our journey to healing, I pray that something I’ve shared will offer some comfort to you.
STAY CLOSE: REMAIN IN GOD’S PRESENCE
Read Psalm 91, Ephesians 5:19, Zephaniah 3:17
When I lost my son, I felt like a piece of me died with him; my heart broke. When you’ve experienced such a major loss, your emotions are everywhere and you go through the stages of grief: numbness, expressed emotions, loneliness, questioning, guilt, etc. (Moore, 1995). During the storms of life, it’s imperative that you stay in God’s presence and allow Him to be your anchor. Saturate yourself with His presence through prayer, reading the Word of God, listening to worship music, making sure you attend church to hear the preached Word.
One day as I was preparing my dinner, I turned on my worship music and just began to sing to the Lord. It was such a beautiful song entitled, “Closer” by William McDowell that was playing. As I began to worship, I felt the presence of God. My Goodness!! At that moment, thoughts of my dear son began to overwhelm me and I started crying like crazy. I began to cry out to God and share with Him what was on my heart. I felt such a release; I felt the strength to carry on one more moment. I knew God heard my prayers.
As I listened to the song, the words began to minister to my spirit, and I began to journal what I heard from the song, and partly what I heard God speak to me:
Cry out to God in your valley season. Stay close to Him. Ask Him to wrap you in His arms. You’ll find safety there. You’re not alone. God is with you. In the secret place. Draw nigh to Him and He will draw nigh to You. If you abide in Him, you will find refuge under His wings. Dwell in His presence. Quiet yourself in His Presence and allow God to speak. Allow Him to comfort you. Read Psalm 91.
So, as I began to offer up praises to God in my pain, He responded through worship. HALLELUJAH!!
Maybe you’ve experienced a loss, you’re in a trial that feels like its consuming you. Whatever it is, know that you are not alone…God is with you. He can bear your burdens so you will not break under the pressure. Remember, you must take the time to get into His presence.
If you’re having a difficult time during this season and you need support, please feel free to connect with us and we will lift you up in our prayers. Also, I want to encourage you to get James W. Moore’s book, When Grief Breaks Your Heart. It’s been very helpful. Until next time, I pray that God will continue to comfort and strengthen you.